Marriage isn’t just about love; it’s a daily battle for communication! Therapists Mary Ellen Goggin and Jerry Dubeinstein reveal the biggest secret behind failing marriages – silence that slowly kills every relationship. People enter marriage full of feelings but forget that honest, mature, daily communication is the key to survival. When conversations are reduced to household chores, and questions and listening are replaced by assumptions, the marriage drifts into alienation. Silence isn’t harmless – it’s a silent killer of closeness and intimacy. The arrival of children, work stress, or the feeling that you already know everything often trigger this problem. But the good news is that closeness can be restored! Couples willing to relearn how to listen and understand each other can save their relationship. Love isn’t a competition; it’s a gift to be nurtured every day.
Psychotherapist Kathy McCoy warns that couples often get stuck in their comfort zone and forget small but important gestures like holding hands, hugging, and kissing. Kissing, says educator Mariah Freya, is the most powerful and often overlooked tool for maintaining intimacy. Studies show kissing boosts happiness hormones and reduces stress, yet many couples don’t kiss enough – up to 20% of married couples can go a week without a kiss!
If your relationship is losing its spark, maybe it’s time to stop looking for expensive gifts and romantic dinners and start kissing more. Because honest communication and physical closeness are what make a marriage strong and lasting. And if you have your own recipe for saving a relationship or think this is all overblown, drop a comment – let’s have a little chat about how marriage really works!
